Comments on: Letter to concerned parents – Part 2

By: flameheart

flameheart — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 08:23:18 +0000

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By: flameheart

flameheart — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 08:21:58 +0000

I just want to add that I am a very happy lesbian woman in a happy relationship with another woman, and with supportive friends, and a loving family who know I am lesbian. Yes, the - we gay people actually can find some of the same sex sizzling hot and seductive! Their personality and background matter, of course, just like with straight people.

How did I know I was gay? Some would have you believe you have to subscribe to some national organisation, or be "seduced" to become gay. I always knew I was attracted to women since I was 12 - you can't fake, hide, or pretend not to be who you biologically want to spend your romantic time with.

It's very sad to see how the institutional discrimination we face in Singapore, has transformed into a "legitimate" soapbox for those with ignorant viewpoints to disseminate their ignorance.

I don't believe those who hate gays are stupid or hateful per se - but in the immortal words of George Lucas - ignorance breeds fear, and fear leads to hate.

By: sloo

sloo — Sat, 09 Jan 2010 05:50:38 +0000

I just happen to come across this feature and even though this is a late late late posting, i just very much like to thank Dr. Lim for her very tolerant and fair piece. I hope no one else has missed the point in her writing that LOVE and UNDERSTANDING is all that matters when dealing with people of different beliefs and persuasions. More love, less hate, more empathy less venom and definitely more tolerance, would make for a far far batter world. Just look at wat's happening in malaysia and the states! All this interference in other people's private lives and being judgemental.

I only like to say I am a happy gay person surrounded by very suportive friends and loved ones. And I can only hope that every gay person will have a chance to achieve a goog and happy in their lives - its a basic human right everyone is entitled to.

By: Required

Required — Mon, 14 Sep 2009 09:16:47 +0000

One other controversy related to this thread is the Thio Li-Ann case in which she withdrew from her NYU teaching appointment due to student protests against her slant against same-sex marriages and homosexuality.

Ms Lim, what thoughts do you have about her impassioned speech (about the repealing of Section 377A) in Parliament, and the responses by NYU and herself?

By: Yuki Choe

Yuki Choe — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 14:02:12 +0000

This is very sad. Everyone writing about homosexuals here. No one cares about the true meaning of it. Attracted to the same sex. All the talk about "lifestyle", "acts", "behaviour" had deviated a sexual orientation from its true meaning. Certain Christian sections even revisioned its meaning. Authoritative medical sciences and decades of research of the world is ignored for the sake of confirmation bias from snake oil salesmen like NARTH.

Many gays and lesbians, even transgenders have their lives, even their suicidal deaths or violent ends, invalidated for the sake of prejudice. And yet, all of them are branded psychos who cannot live and think for themselves, and as if they need "change" perpetuated by people who are taking advantage of the monetary, acceptance and status of being "ex-gays".

In the end, no one will ever know what a person born comfortable with their sexual orientation will feel if they are born homosexual or bisexual. No one would even question why no one bothers about why there are no heterosexual or asexual gene. Everyone loves to hear about the fear, the hate, the disgust parroted by certain circles. But as sure as we are all flesh and blood, we are all in the end human beings conditioned to be different, and separate ourselves and the people around us because of it. And we all are still human beings capable of love. And it would be great if we can affirm everyone's love for everyone instead of demonizing anyone.